Ending a marriage is never easy.  It is a process that often involves not only financial, but also emotional strain.  However, it is possible to prepare for your divorce.  The best preparation is having knowledge of your family’s finances.   Often in a divorce case one spouse is at a disadvantage because he or she did not handle the finances during the marriage due to other responsibilities.  If you are considering divorce, it is an essential first step to gather as much financial information as possible.  Important documents to obtain include, but are not limited to, income tax returns, bank records, credit card statements as well as retirement and investment account statements.  It is a good idea to make a list of your assets and debts prior to consulting with an attorney.  It is also crucial to be aware of your monthly budget, which will help determine your financial needs.  In order to best assess your budget begin retaining a copy of all bills and receipts for your expenditures and track your expenses each month.

The next step is to consult with a matrimonial attorney who specializes in family law.  An experienced family law attorney will not only be able to navigate you through the legal process, but he or she can also effectively deal with the added emotional component that is inevitably part of the divorce process. The attorneys at Iandoli & Edens dedicate their practice exclusively to representing individuals with family law issues. Our attorneys are here to help you through the divorce process.  Please call us at (908) 879-9499 to schedule an initial consultation.

Eva Longoria, the “Desperate Housewives” actress who recently split from NBA player, Tony Parker, took on a rather interesting and optimistic approach when communicating about her divorce;  “I am not letting this take over. Something great is around the corner – I can’t wait to see what’s going to happen.”

Actor and film producer, David Arquette, recently faced divorce proceedings from actress Courtney Cox, who is best known for her role as “Monica” on the hit TV series “Friends”. The ex-Hollywood couple has been reported to remain friends and to cope with the fact that their marriage simply failed – without blaming the other.  Mr. Arquette has said that going through a divorce is a difficult process; “It’s heartbreaking and it hurts really bad. It can really mess with your head.”

Longoria’s positive outlook and Arquette’s welcoming style are nothing short of admirable. Let’s face it – it is difficult to look on the brighter side when facing a divorce. After all, your world may be splitting in half – sometimes, literally. Unfortunately, the resulting depression and sadness so inherit in divorce can overwhelm. All too often, litigants spend good money after bad being angry – trying to get even with their soon to be ex-spouse.

No matter who you are, divorce has the deep and real potential to take over your mind; but, the way you react is totally up to you. Optimism and hopefulness is exclusive to those who are able to look past the perceived injustice of it all.  Confidence in a new beginning is paramount.

It really does not have to be so bad. Divorce does not have to destroy and you should not let it destroy you or your family.

Speak to an attorney at Iandoli & Edens, LLC today who can help you get through the divorce process with optimism and confidence. We are here to help. Contact an attorney today at 908.879.9499.

            According to research on stressful life events, divorce ranks #2, just below death of a spouse.  In fact, divorce is considered a more stressful event than incarceration!

            So, if you are facing a divorce, how do you get through it?  Kim Kardashian, hours after announcing her divorce from Kris Humphries, fled toAustraliafor some de-stressing.  Similarly, Demi Moore headed toHawaii, after announcing her intent to divorce.

            For those whose lives are a bit more complicated other forms of stress relief are available.  It is important during this extremely difficult period to make sure to make time for yourself.  If you are not OK, taking care of your job, your children and other responsibilities can become almost insurmountable.  Meditation, yoga, exercise and pilates are all good forms of stress relief.

            One of the most important things you can do for yourself is to find a lawyer who is not only an expert in the field of family law, but also is compassionate and trustworthy.  If you are comfortable with your lawyer, you can leave a lot of the day-to-day divorce issues in his or her hands. 

            Our law firm’s goal is not only to get you the best result, but to make the entire process as stress free as possible.  For an initial consultation, call one of our divorce lawyers today @ (908) 879-9499.

Surprisingly, statistics are showing that divorce after 60 is on a continuous rise.  This may in part be because the baby boomers are creating a large population of people over 60.  More people means more divorces.

Another concept, however, which has roots in a study in Japan is known as “Retired Husband Syndrome”.*  Couples who have had very busy lives raising children, putting them through college, surviving (or thriving) during the early empty nest years are often woefully unprepared for the reality of the husband’s retirement.  This is most commonly an issue in families where the wife has been a stay-at-home mom.  When suddenly faced with their husband being home on a full time basis, stress and discord can occur.  Incompatibilities that have been simply not addressed for years can come to the forefront.

In other cases, the past may simply catch up with an unsuspecting couple.  Arnold Schwarzenegger, age 63 is being divorced by his wife Maria Shriver, allegedly because of past infidelities.

Whatever the reason, divorcing after 60 has a unique set of issues which set it apart from other divorces.  Although it is rarer to have custody disputes, other considerations arise.  Retirement plans can already be in pay status and continuation of medical insurance can raise grave concerns.

The team of divorce attorneys at Iandoli & Edens are well versed in the issues of divorce after 60.  Call one of our experienced lawyers @ 908 879-9499 for a consultation today.

* Japanese Society of Psychosomatic Medicine by Nobuo Kurokawa