In New Jersey, as in many other states, marital fault is not considered by the courts when making financial awards, either alimony or equitable distribution.  In other words, even though your spouse may have cheated on you or otherwise acted inappropriately during the marriage, you will not be able to receive additional marital compensation based on that fact alone.  The only exception is what is called a Tevis claim where a spouse can ask for monetary damages for physical or emotional abuse.  These claims are treated as a personal injury claim by the court.

To overcome this, many couples are building these claims into their prenuptial agreements, asking for specific monetary relief if their spouse commits a certain act.  For example, reportedly, pursuant to Denise Richards and Charlie Sheen’s prenuptial, either party would receive $4,000,000 if the other committed adultery.

A prenuptial can also be quite a bit more one sided.  It is reported that according to Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones’ prenuptial, Catherine would receive $5,000,000 should Michael Douglas cheat on her.

Although it appears most common that married people feel they should be financially compensated for infidelity, prenuptial agreements can address other types of marital fault as well.  It is written that Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s prenuptial states that if Keith does any illicit drugs, he will forfeit the other provisions in the prenuptial that provide for him financially should they divorce.

To talk to an attorney experienced in preparing prenuptial agreements, contact one of the lawyers at Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879-9499.

There are special tax issues which pertain to couples who are seeking a separation or divorce.  The first issue is whether to file jointly or separately.  If filing separately, the question becomes who gets to claim the children, the deductions for the home mortgage interest, real estate property taxes, market losses, etc.  If seeking a final divorce, the issue becomes who will claim those deductions.  Additionally, while you are negotiating alimony, keep in mind that alimony is usually taxable income to the person who receives it and a deduction for the person who pays it.  If you are addressing any of these issues, be sure to contact a knowledgeable attorney who can assist you with these issues.  Contact Iandoli & Edens, LLC at (908) 879-9499.

When is an agreement reached?  Can an agreement be reached before the Marital Settlement Agreement is signed by both parties?  Are verbal agreements binding (i.e. legally enforceable) when they arise during conversations at home, during conferences with attorneys, or at mediation?

What if one party believes that an issue or the entire case is settled and the other party denies that an agreement exists?  Then what?  Evidence of an agreement would certainly be helpful to your position.

If you or someone you know is in this type of situation, it is very likely that you have heard the term “Harrington Hearing”.  Typically, the spouse whose position it is that a settlement agreement exists will likely seek relief from the court in the form of a Harrington Hearing.  A Harrington Hearing is a court hearing consisting of any and all testimony and evidence relevant to whether an agreement exists.

There are ways to avoid a dispute over whether an agreement exists.  As a practical matter, the best evidence is when the terms of a settlement are typed or written onto a document that bears both parties’ signatures.  Many times, attorneys put settlement terms on the record when an agreement is reached at court.  In addition, most mediators advise their clients that settlement is not final until the parties have agreed to the terms outlined in the Mediator’s Memorandum of Understanding.

A family law attorney can be extremely helpful in these types of situations because he/she will know when and what to put on paper.  Is it wise for you to piecemeal your settlement or only settle your case from a global perspective?  Our firm can help.  Call us at (908) 879-9499 to schedule a consultation.

There is always something happening in Newark, New Jersey so I knew this morning would be no different.  I opened the heavy chamber doors and entered the Judge’s courtroom. Waiting for my case to be called, one could not sideswipe the fact that the courtroom was packed – like Kim Kardashian’s Louis Vuitton suitcase. The Judge was on the bench illuminating his vibrant personality – as always, he would not disappoint this crowd today. This particular brisk and sunny morning was notably more memorable than others. There were far more people sitting past the bar, which elevated interest right away to anyone who was fortunate enough to be a part of the audience.

At first, it appeared to be your usual cast of characters. There was the wife siting to the right. She was strikingly beautiful and appeared surprisingly composed. Her attorney, who sat immediately to her right, appeared relaxed, poised but noticeably bothered. There was an interpreter, repeating every word to the wife in Spanish. The interpreter whispered, “Es un regalo y nada mas.” Her attorney argued, “Judge, the father-in-law gave the parties the money. It was a gift, Judge. My client will not repay monies which will serve only to unjustly enrich the Defendant.”

The Judge’s eyebrows elevated far into his hairline. “Defendant certifies to this Court that the monies were a loan. He certifies he must repay this money to his father. Your client would, as a result, be unjustly enriched, counsel. This would not be a fair result, contrary to the objectives of the chancery division!”

To my left was the Husband; a robust young man, evidently upset and distraught. His hand met his head several times throughout the hearing; his forehead wrinkled with stress. He gawked at the Judge repeatedly as if to subliminally persuade the Judge he was right. Husband’s counsel was standing with his right arm raised towards the detailed vaulted ceiling, as to call the attention of the One above. A bit dramatic, he was most certainly effective. His theatrical gesture, revealing tone and three-piece Armani suit was fittingly convincing. “You see, Your Honor, the money could not have been a gift, it was a loan. Wife wants to benefit financially from this, Your Honor. She is being greedy. Pigs are greedy. Pigs get slaughtered.” I told you he was dramatic.

The Judge had heard enough. “Do you have a promissory note, signed by both parties? Do you have cancelled checks? Do you have proof of the interest paid or a portion of the base amount paid? No! You don’t! I have nothing before me to indicate this was a loan.”

Everyone in the room understood. This one was not going to be easy.

To complete the cast of characters, to the far left was an elder man, approximately in his late 60s. He had an interpreter lagging with a 15 second delay. The popular senior was allowed to intervene as a third party holding an interest in the outcome of the case. He sat up straight and had his sweaty palms grasped securely on his lap. He was holding onto the Judge’s every word. Next to him was his lawyer who commendably repeated, “It was a loan! It was a loan!”

The Judge continued, “Here is what I will do. I will order that the monies be held in trust for the benefit of the parties’ two year old son to be utilized towards his college degree.” Well, there’s a twist. I could almost hear an applause from the audience; but, then again, that might have just been me witnessing a judge vexing to do the right thing. How beautiful. “If there are any objections to this, I will hear them now.”

Fifteen seconds later, “Alguien en contra …” The elder man raised his hand as high as did the sassy lawyer. The interpreter appealed, “I object. It was a loan and I want to be repaid.”

The Judge sighed and shook his head. He ordered a hearing. The wife and the husband would be required to spend thousands of dollars on a mini-trial for what could have been easily prevented with a simple document evidencing the intent of the parties.

Distinguishing whether monies were intended to be a gift or a loan can be costly to both parties. We can help you gather the information you need to prove your case. Contact an attorney at Iandoli & Edens, LLC to learn your rights. We are here to help. 908-879-9499.

Ending a marriage is never easy.  It is a process that often involves not only financial, but also emotional strain.  However, it is possible to prepare for your divorce.  The best preparation is having knowledge of your family’s finances.   Often in a divorce case one spouse is at a disadvantage because he or she did not handle the finances during the marriage due to other responsibilities.  If you are considering divorce, it is an essential first step to gather as much financial information as possible.  Important documents to obtain include, but are not limited to, income tax returns, bank records, credit card statements as well as retirement and investment account statements.  It is a good idea to make a list of your assets and debts prior to consulting with an attorney.  It is also crucial to be aware of your monthly budget, which will help determine your financial needs.  In order to best assess your budget begin retaining a copy of all bills and receipts for your expenditures and track your expenses each month.

The next step is to consult with a matrimonial attorney who specializes in family law.  An experienced family law attorney will not only be able to navigate you through the legal process, but he or she can also effectively deal with the added emotional component that is inevitably part of the divorce process. The attorneys at Iandoli & Edens dedicate their practice exclusively to representing individuals with family law issues. Our attorneys are here to help you through the divorce process.  Please call us at (908) 879-9499 to schedule an initial consultation.

Whether you are paying alimony or receiving alimony, or about to pay alimony or about to receive alimony, a recent case may be applicable to your situation.

Typically alimony is based on the standard of living enjoying during the marriage.  You would assume that it is also based on the earnings during the marriage.  However, that’s not necessarily the way it will work.  A recent case made it clear that under certain circumstances a court can consider the earning capacities of the parties that include earnings beyond that earned during the marriage.  The court said it can look at a principle called the “momentum of the marriage” to determine if that caused the higher future earnings.  If so, and all the other criteria relevant to the case are satisfied, a payor spouse’s current earnings, even if higher than those earned during the marriage, can be used to determine the amount of alimony to be paid.

Should you have any questions about alimony, do not hesitate to contact one of the attorneys at Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879‑9499.

Eva Longoria, the “Desperate Housewives” actress who recently split from NBA player, Tony Parker, took on a rather interesting and optimistic approach when communicating about her divorce;  “I am not letting this take over. Something great is around the corner – I can’t wait to see what’s going to happen.”

Actor and film producer, David Arquette, recently faced divorce proceedings from actress Courtney Cox, who is best known for her role as “Monica” on the hit TV series “Friends”. The ex-Hollywood couple has been reported to remain friends and to cope with the fact that their marriage simply failed – without blaming the other.  Mr. Arquette has said that going through a divorce is a difficult process; “It’s heartbreaking and it hurts really bad. It can really mess with your head.”

Longoria’s positive outlook and Arquette’s welcoming style are nothing short of admirable. Let’s face it – it is difficult to look on the brighter side when facing a divorce. After all, your world may be splitting in half – sometimes, literally. Unfortunately, the resulting depression and sadness so inherit in divorce can overwhelm. All too often, litigants spend good money after bad being angry – trying to get even with their soon to be ex-spouse.

No matter who you are, divorce has the deep and real potential to take over your mind; but, the way you react is totally up to you. Optimism and hopefulness is exclusive to those who are able to look past the perceived injustice of it all.  Confidence in a new beginning is paramount.

It really does not have to be so bad. Divorce does not have to destroy and you should not let it destroy you or your family.

Speak to an attorney at Iandoli & Edens, LLC today who can help you get through the divorce process with optimism and confidence. We are here to help. Contact an attorney today at 908.879.9499.

It is not uncommon for a spouse who has filed a Complaint for Divorce to question his/her decisionGiven the many emotions that surface during divorce proceedings, sometimes a spouse may wonder if he/she should give their partner one last chance.

Spouses should give special attention to their present circumstances when making this decision. If the reconciliation does not last and the spouse who previously dismissed their Complaint now wants to re-file their Complaint, his/her support obligations and/or share of equitable distribution may have substantially increased or decreased since the time of the initial filing.  In most cases, the courts will look to the date of the second filing (re-filed Complaint) in making impactful financial decisions.

If you or someone you know is in a similar situation, it may be wise for that person to meet with a family law attorney to discuss the particulars of their situation and any alternative they may have.  In some cases, spouses may choose to execute a Reconciliation Agreement whereby certain spousal expectations are delineated along with agreed upon financial distributions if a divorce occurs. Our attorneys are here to help you.  Please call us at (908) 879-9499.

     Happy New Year!  2012 is upon us and of course, New Year’s resolutions are in order.  Here are some New Year’s resolutions to keep in mind: 

1.  Resolve to be enlightened. Surround yourself with knowledge.  Many married individuals are terrified to file for divorce due to financial reasons or because of concerns pertaining to their children.  Resolve to inform yourself about the law surrounding these issues.  Understanding your rights will render a better you in 2012.

2.  Resolve to save money.  People find clever ways to save money from skipping a Venti latte   Frappuccino extraordinaire in exchange for a delightful homemade cup of Joe.  Others prefer to skip the exquisite restaurant dinner and opt for a budget-friendly domestic meal.  The Court may be able to grant further financial relief if you elect to file a modification application to decrease your child support obligation or alimony requirement based on significant and permanent change in circumstances.  If your application holds merit, the Court can decrease your support payments which can certainly help you keep your head above water in 2012.

3.  Resolve to help others.  Community service is a rewarding experience.  Soup kitchens are always accepting volunteers, hospitals need caretakers and not-for-profit organizations will gladly accept donations.  There are so many other small ways you can help.  All too often, litigants facing a divorce or contentious parenting issues with the Court system experience immense stress and may feel alone and as if they have no one to turn to.  Resolve to be a non-judgmental friend who will be there for the individual in grief and provide that special shoulder to cry on.  Helping those in need – even in the smallest ways – will make the biggest difference for 2012!

     Contact Iandoli & Edens, LLC today.  We are here to help you in the New Year – just as we have for the past 18 years.

            According to research on stressful life events, divorce ranks #2, just below death of a spouse.  In fact, divorce is considered a more stressful event than incarceration!

            So, if you are facing a divorce, how do you get through it?  Kim Kardashian, hours after announcing her divorce from Kris Humphries, fled toAustraliafor some de-stressing.  Similarly, Demi Moore headed toHawaii, after announcing her intent to divorce.

            For those whose lives are a bit more complicated other forms of stress relief are available.  It is important during this extremely difficult period to make sure to make time for yourself.  If you are not OK, taking care of your job, your children and other responsibilities can become almost insurmountable.  Meditation, yoga, exercise and pilates are all good forms of stress relief.

            One of the most important things you can do for yourself is to find a lawyer who is not only an expert in the field of family law, but also is compassionate and trustworthy.  If you are comfortable with your lawyer, you can leave a lot of the day-to-day divorce issues in his or her hands. 

            Our law firm’s goal is not only to get you the best result, but to make the entire process as stress free as possible.  For an initial consultation, call one of our divorce lawyers today @ (908) 879-9499.

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