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             One of the questions asked frequently these days, particularly in these difficult economic times, is how does having a Final Restraining Order entered against me affect my employment and/or my employability?

             The answer is anything but clear cut.  It is important to understand that in New Jersey, once a Final Restraining Order (FRO) is entered there is no “expiration date”.  The FRO will remain in effect until it is dismissed by the Plaintiff or dissolved by Judicial Decree.  As a consequence, someone who is now 38 and had an FRO entered when he or she was 18- 20 years old- is still under the same restraints.

            Employers vary in response to a background check that discloses an FRO.  Rules also vary from state to state, but it is also important to keep in mind that even if you have moved from the state where the FRO was entered it is still in full force and effect wherever you reside.

            In some cases, as with celebrities, Domestic Violence does not seem to affect their job or popularity.  Charlie Sheen, for example appears to be one such individual.

Mediation is an alternative to litigation. The parties work with a mediator to reach resolution on all issues in their case such as custody, parenting time, child support, alimony and distribution of their assets and debt. The mediator does not represent either party, but works to facilitate an agreement between both parties. The parties may still have attorneys to give them individual advice.

The parties will work on their budgets, review financial documents such as paystubs, tax returns, etc. If necessary, experts such as a psychologist, accountant or real estate appraiser will be hired by the parties.

When done, the mediator prepares what is called a Memorandum of Understanding. It is not a legally binding contract. The Memorandum of Understanding is merely a letter outlining the proposals to which the parties agreed. Typically, the parties bring the Memorandum of Understanding to their respective attorneys. One of the attorneys converts the Memorandum of Understanding into a legally binding contract called a Marital Settlement Agreement. One of the attorneys will also file the formal documents with the court to get the parties divorced.

Mediation is usually far less costly than a litigated divorce. Mediation also typically takes a lot less time than a litigated divorce. Mediation is not regulated by the State of New Jersey. Anyone can claim to be a mediator. You may want to look into the credentials and experience of the professional to whom you are entrusting such important issues.

If you are interested in mediation or have any further questions, do not hesitate to contact the mediators, who are both accredited by the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators and experienced matrimonial attorneys, at Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879-9499.

Please join us on April 27, 2011 from 7:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m, at the Morris Hills School of Adult and Continuing Education for our seminar entitled “Economic Considerations in Divorce”

This  2-hour workshop will explore the factors affecting alimony and distribution of assets and debt in separation and divorce.

To learn more about this seminar or the Morris Hills School of Adult and Continuing Education visit:

Pre-registration and fee are required.  To register for this seminar please call the Morris Hills School of Adult and Continuing Education at (973) 664-2295.

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