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Many people contemplating or in the midst of a divorce wonder “is there life after divorce?”  What will it feel like to be a single person in what might seem like a world of married people?  Will I be strong or fade away as the former half of a couple?

While this may seem especially true for those in the limelight (after all that’s who we see and read about) it truly is something that runs across all socio-economic boundaries.  Some use humor.  Robin Williams famously quoted, “Ah yes, divorce…from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet.”  Mickey Rooney was quoted, “A lot of people have asked me how short I am.  Since my last divorce I think I’m about $100,000 short.”  For non-celebrities, these jokes are best shared among close friends.  As it is often said, humor can be the best medicine.

Another way to get back on track after a divorce is to work on being the best you can become.  Jessica Simpson became vastly more successful than her ex-husband, Nick Lachey, after their divorce.  Likewise, Alec Baldwin’s career has flourished, while his ex’s, Kim Basinger, has stalled.

Whatever your situation, the right lawyer for your divorce is absolutely essential.  After all, post divorce healing comes after receiving the best possible outcome in your divorce.  Call today to schedule an appointment with one of our knowledgeable attorneys @ 908-879-9499.  Visit us online @

You or your spouse may be an employee who receives employee stock options or stock shares from the employer.  At the time of the divorce, some may be vested and some may be unvested.  You may be wondering what, if any, role those benefits play in your divorce.  You should know that those benefits are to be considered for alimony and/or equitable distribution purposes.

Typically, stock options and shares which have accumulated, even if they are not yet vested, are considered an asset and subject to be shared with the other spouse just like any other asset (such as a savings account, CD or investment account).

Usually stock options or shares received in the future are deemed to be a part of the employment package and eligible to be considered for alimony purposes.  The spouse who receives the stock options may have the value of the stock added to their income.

Since stock options and stock shares are considered in a divorce for alimony and/or equitable distribution purposes, contact a knowledgeable attorney at Iandoli & Edens, LLC at (908) 879-9499 to find out how this will affect you.  Click here to log on to for more information.

A new trend has emerged where newly divorced individuals are celebrating their divorce over drinks with friends or in more symbolic ways such as purchasing a meaningful item.  Some new divorcees will take vacations for relaxation or, as recently published on Yahoo, purchase what are now known as divorce rings.   This may sound callous to some.   However, the celebration has very little to do with the ending of the marriage.  It should be recognized that a celebration of this sort symbolizes the ending of a long arduous and contentious battle over children, real property and personal property.

Oftentimes, the divorcing person’s life is held in limbo during divorce litigation.  Time with their children may be stymied, support figures are uncertain, the ability to refinance on a home is unknown, and the ability to move forward sounds like an impossibility.  This state of limbo can last for a very long time before a settlement is reached or a trial is conducted. The stress and anxiety associated with life turning upside down is overwhelming. In fact, most of our clients meet with therapists throughout the litigation process to help them cope with these issues.  So, one might say that indeed a celebration is in order when resolution is achieved.   It is not a callous act; it is the act of a person finally being able to see light at the end of the tunnel and finally being able to breathe easy again.

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It is human nature for a person to consider spying on his or her spouse if cheating is suspected.    However, depending on the nature of the spying method, legal consequences may result.  The use of spying or surveillance equipment may be illegal.

According to New Jersey’s Wiretap Statute, it is a crime of the third degree to purposely intercept or endeavor to intercept any wire, electronic, or oral communication.  In White v. White, New Jersey’s first reported decision concerning the admissibility of a husband’s email communications between himself and his girlfriend accessed by wife’s computer expert from the family computer, the Court found that the wife did not violate New Jersey’s Wiretap Statute.  The Court made a distinction between emails stored or saved on the computer, as was the case in White, versus emails in active transmission.  For example, if a spouse accesses emails utilizing the other’s spouse’s password without their permission, it may be a violation of the Wiretap Statute if the emails are in the transmission stage.

Similarly, in New Jersey, the interception of cell phone communications by any type of interception device is illegal.  A person is only legally permitted to record a conversation if the person who is doing the recording is a party to that conversation.  Recording a conversation between your spouse and a third party is prohibited.

If your spouse has violated your privacy, you may be entitled to relief.  Contact an experienced attorney at Iandoli & Edens today to discuss whether or not you can sue your spouse for violating your privacy rights. You can reach us at (908) 879-9499 or click onto to discuss your rights.

There appears to be a phenomenon – a television phenomenon – that provides litigants with nothing more than unreasonable expectations about the time it takes to obtain a Final Judgment of Divorce. It is astonishing how the leading couple in a film can marry and divorce in two hours or less. No wonder so many litigants facing divorce are shocked to learn the length of time it really takes to divorce their spouse. Truth is, unless you and your partner can agree as to how to proceed on all issues including, but not limited to, custody, child support, equitable distribution, financial support, and retirement, before you walk into an attorney’s office for a consultation, you are facing, on average, a year of litigation. Yes, that’s right. I said it. One year. Do not let the movies fool you: it is never as it seems.

During litigation, discovery is exchanged where both parties have an opportunity to learn about the financials and respective positions with regard to custody, if applicable. This stage alone can take a couple of months. At the onset of the litigation for divorce, it is imperative that both parties complete a Case Information Statement, an important document which will specify yearly incomes, the marital lifestyle and list all of the assets and debt acquired during the marriage. The parties will also be required to attend a Case Management Conference with the Judge assigned to your case to review discovery end dates. The next phase of the litigation is the all-important Early Settlement Panel.

Early Settlement Panel is a mandatory event scheduled several months after the complaint for divorce is filed. At this event, both parties meet with two experienced matrimonial attorneys to discuss the outstanding issues. The panelists volunteer their time to help settle the financial aspect of your case only; custody and parenting time are not discussed. Many cases settle on this day after litigants hear the suggestions from the panelists.  If you settle at Early Settlement Panel, the Court will grant you a divorce on the same day and your case will be over.  However, if you do not settle, you proceed to the next stage: Economic Mediation.

At Economic Mediation, the parties meet with one matrimonial attorney who will work hard to mediate your differences. Usually, the mediator will focus purely on the economic issues but custody and parenting time can be mediated if requested. Many cases settle at this point. Both sides will hear about the probable outcome and come to terms that if they proceed to trial, the risk inherit in a trial and the risk of spending thousands of dollars on counsel fees for a trial, may outweigh any benefit.

In the event you are not settled at Economic mediation, you will be scheduled for an Intensive Settlement Conference with the Judge who will provide input as to how he or she may ultimately decide the disputed issues. A trial will be scheduled if you cannot settle your case. Many times, a trial will be scheduled months in advance due to the busy court calendar and you will be forced to return to Court throughout several different days to finish your trial.

As you can see, movies do not reveal the work it takes to get a divorce. In reality, divorce litigation is a lengthy process engineered to help litigants avoid the cost of trial to settle their case. There is no question, divorce is not as quick as the movies would have you believe. Don’t believe the hype. Talk to an experienced attorney to learn the truth.

If you have questions about a divorce and seek legal assistance, contact an experienced attorney at Iandoli & Edens, LLC at 908.879.9499. Make an appointment today. Click here to log onto for more information.

Whether you knew your relationship was headed down this path or your spouse completely surprised you, some of the same issues arise.  What will be the custody arrangement?  When will the children be with mom and when will they be with dad?  Who will take them to their activities?  What will happen to their college fund?  Who will pay the balance of the cost of their college education?  What will happen to the house?  Will it remain mine?  Where will everyone live post-divorce?  What will happen to our stock, savings, investment accounts, retirement accounts, etc.?

If you are a stay-at-home parent, will you be expected to go back to work outside the home?  If you are expected to go back to work, when?  What kind of job will you get?

Some say that divorce means change.  No one denies that there are a lot of decisions to be made.  At Iandoli & Edens we address all of the issues in your case, one at a time and work with you to develop a plan for the future.  So don’t be overwhelmed.  Let our team assist you.  Call Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879-9499 or click here to learn more about us.

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