It is no secret: divorce is stressful and demanding. At times, it can feel like a second job. There is no denying it, a “time-out” is well overdue for any litigant experiencing a contested divorce. But, considering you’re in the midst of a divorce litigation, is a retreat the smart thing to do?

Well, it depends.

So long as your travel plans are consistent with the marital lifestyle, chances are it may be sensible to book a vacation. I know what you are thinking: how do I know what is consistent with the marital lifestyle?

Although this may be difficult for some of you, try to recall the last several years of your marriage. Did you take vacations during the marriage? Where did you travel? When traveling, did you book first class or coach? How often did you and your spouse holiday? On average, how much did you spend on your trip? These are all important questions to ponder prior to booking any travel plans during a divorce litigation.

If you and your spouse spent yearly carriage retreats to Aunt Betty’s chalet in Virginia where meals and lodging were complementary, chances are, traveling first class to Ireland, lodging at Ballyseede Castle and dining at the finest restaurants, would most likely be regarded as an unreasonable expense. Stay closely consistent with the expenses and expectations experienced during the marriage and chances are, you will lack any remorse for taking your much-deserved escape.

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