Are you prepared for the upcoming holidays? Who is hosting Thanksgiving this year? Who is making the turkey?  Who is making the pies?  Who is picking up grandma?  And where will the children be?

Yes, you read correctly. Where will the children be?  The holidays are stressful enough for intact families, but there is an additional stress for families of divorce.  Who will the children be with for Thanksgiving?  Who will the children be with for Hanukkah?  Who will the children be with for Christmas?   Where will the children be for any given holiday?  And for that matter, what is a holiday?

The answer is different for every family. Typically, parties who are already divorced have a detailed holiday schedule contained in their settlement agreement. The holiday schedule can be as detailed as the parties want and address any holiday the parties want.  For many people being able to take their children Trick or Treating on Halloween is just as important as eating pumpkin pie with them on Thanksgiving.  For divorced or separated families a detailed holiday schedule is essential to enjoying the season. The holidays are about spending time with friends and family; not about fighting over spending time with friends and family.

Unfortunately, some settlement agreements do not adequately address the holidays. Or perhaps the parties are newly separated and have not reached an agreement yet.  If you do not know where your children are supposed to be for the holidays contact one of our experienced attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499 and we will help you come up with a plan that works for your family.