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Statistics say that approximately 50% of married couples will end their marriage through divorce. Given this statistic it would stand to reason that there is less shame attached to divorce now than there has been in the past.  No doubt the “stigma” of divorce is lessening.  After all, Donald Trump has been married three times and divorced twice.  He has children with his current wife and both ex-wives.  This did not stop us as a country from electing him President.  In fact, not only were his multiple marriages rarely mentioned during the campaign, but his children from all three marriages were visible and supportive of him during the election.  It was a real-life version of “Modern Family”.    Unfortunately, despite the acceptance of divorce and remarriage in today’s society, many people going through divorce still feel a sense of failure.  This makes sense.  Although divorce is commonplace, it is never anyone’s goal when getting married.  If you are a friend or a relative of a person going through a divorce, rather than a gasp of dismay upon hearing the news, a simple “What can I do to help?” will go a long way towards helping them through the divorce.  While the “stigma” of divorce has lessened, the pain and challenges that a divorce brings still exist.  If you or someone you know has questions about divorce, please contact one of our experienced family law attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS at (908) 879-9499 for guidance through the process.

A fascinating and painful news article came out of Great Britain today. A transgendered woman has been denied direct access to her children by the courts.  Although this article comes from Great Britain it highlights the same issues that American Courts struggle with – What is in the best interest of the children?  The answer is often not a straightforward one.  Parents often disagree with each other and are diametrically opposed to what is in their children’s best interest.  If the parents cannot agree then it is left to the courts to decide.  In the Great Britain case the family in question was a member of an ultra-Orthodox Jewish community.  The judge determined that no direct contact was in the best interest of the children out of concern that if there was contact the children would be ostracized in their community.  This case is clearly an extreme case. However, custody disputes often arise in divorces.  Custody disputes require not only skill on the part of the attorneys, but sensitivity.  Our office has experience in addressing these types of matters.  If you have questions about child custody please contact one of our experienced attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/jan/30/transgender-woman-denied-direct-access-to-ultra-orthodox-jewish-children

 

 

 

 

Every day we read about the latest celebrity breakup. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have been especially active in the headlines recently.  Their divorce is especially difficult and sensitive because they are parents to young children.  Children who most likely had no say in the divorce itself or the added attention that it has brought to their already famous family.  We were happy to read the headline this week that Brad and Angelina are going to put up a “united front” in their divorce and are agreeing to seal sensitive records relating to their children.  Children and their protection should always be the primary goal of all the adults involved in a divorce – from parents, to attorneys, to the Judge.  It does not matter who you are, be it a Hollywood celeb or an average Joe, at the end of the day you are a parent and that bond will continue. Part of a successful divorce is not just ending the marriage, but building a plan for the future. If you have questions about the divorce process please contact one of our experienced attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499.

http://www.eonline.com/news/821109/brad-pitt-and-angelina-jolie-put-on-a-united-front-amid-divorce

 

 

 

The headlines this last week of 2016 are full of unexpected deaths, most notably Carrie Fisher and George Michael. Both were taken far too young and our deepest condolences go out to their family, friends and fans.

Unfortunately, as tragic as these deaths are, unexpected death is not uncommon. Compounding the tragedy is that often people who die young or unexpectedly do not have an Estate Plan; or even a Last Will and Testament.  This leaves the survivors struggling not only with the grief of losing a loved one, but the very real problems that death brings.  Sometimes people believe they do not need a Will because they do not own anything of value.  This is not the case.  Even the most humble of estates have difficult questions that need to be answered.  It might be as straightforward as: Where does your loved one want to be buried?  Or as complicated as:  Who is going to finish raising their child?  No one wants to think about dying, but planning for the unexpected by having a Last Will and Testament can be one of the best gifts you can give to your friends and family.

If you want more information about estate planning contact one of our attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499 and we will help you come up with a plan that works for your family.

For many of us midnight on December 31st rings in new resolutions and a sense of excitement for the upcoming year.  In New Jersey this year the New Year will ring in new rights for adults that were adopted as children prior to August 1, 2015.  Significant changes in New Jersey’s adoption laws will now let adult adoptees request information from the State of New Jersey about their birth parents, including their original birth certificate. This information was not previously available to them if they were adopted in a closed adoption.  While this change in the law is wonderful news for those who are searching for answers about their birth and where they come from, it can be frightening for birth parents who believed their identity would never be revealed.  As with most family law issues there is fine balance to be reached in assuring that everyone is treated fairly.  For birth parents who do not wish for their identity to be revealed they have until December 31, 2016 to file forms with the State of New Jersey requesting no contact from the adopted child and redacting the child’s birth certificate to remove any information that identifies them as the birth parent.  If you or anyone in your family has questions about the upcoming changes in the adoption privacy rules and the record system for birth parents contact one of our experienced attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499.

Domestic Violence is a serious problem. It cuts through all socioeconomic barriers, races, religions. Many people still think of it as “the problem of the poor”, but nothing could be farther from the truth. It affects so many different aspects of life, from gun control issues to substance abuse to loss of jobs to gender equality. Unfortunately, since Domestic Violence often occurs in private, the proceedings often come down to a “he said, she said” scenario in the Court. Do people make up false charges of abuse? Sometimes. Regrettably, in the case of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard, it’s being tried in the media. They were the only two present at the time of the alleged incident. No one knows for sure what happened but the two of them. If their case does go to trial, the Judge or Jury will hear the testimony and decide. If you are charged with Domestic Violence or a victim of Domestic Violence, contact one of our attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS at (908) 879-9499.

 

As most of the world is aware, Madonna and Guy Ritchie are involved in a custody battle over their fifteen year old son, Rocco. As family lawyers, these kinds of disputes are some of the most heartbreaking.  The question for the Judge is how much weight to place on a child’s stated preference.  Obviously this is only applicable to older children, typically teenagers.  This poses the conundrum of why the child might be choosing one parent over the other.   Did Dad buy him or her an expensive sports car?  Are the rules at Mom’s much less rigid and therefore allow a teenager to spend free time on activities that may or may not be appropriate for them?   In N.J. the Courts look very carefully at the reasoning behind the child’s words.  NJRC %:8-1 gives a Judge the authority to interview a child “in camera”, meaning in the Judge’s private office.  The attorneys for the respective parents are allowed to submit questions to the Judge that they request be asked of the child.  The wording of these questions can have a substantial impact on the information the Judge takes away from the interview.

If you or someone you know becomes involved in this type of situation, call one of the experienced lawyers at IANDOLI & EDENS- 908 879 9499 for a fee consultation today.

Conscious Uncoupling. What exactly does that mean? Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin used it to describe their decision to divorce. While it may sound very Hollywood, there is a nugget of gold in there. As divorce attorneys at Iandoli & Edens, our motto has been “Divorce Doesn’t Have To Destroy”. In a way, conscious uncoupling embodies that belief.

When a couple decides that their marriage is no longer viable, if they have children, they must become the focus of the “uncoupling”. To raise healthy and happy children under adverse circumstances is difficult, yet it can and has been done. Knowing the love of both parents is crucial, but sometimes even more important is that the children see that parents who are divorcing can still respect each other.

At Iandoli & Edens we try to make that happen by emphasizing the children’s needs. To speak with an experienced divorce attorney call IANDOLI & EDENS at 908-879-9499 for a free consultation today. You can also visit us on the web at http://www.iandoliedens.com.

There is good news in the world of adoption! The American Institute for Research is going to conduct behavioral and scientific research to help adoptees and adoptive families not just focus on placement, but on success. They are partnering with the National Center for Adoption and Permanency. It is hoped that this kind of information can help families whether they are involved in international adoption, foster care system, private adoption or agency adoption. The research can only help to make for better and wiser placements.

Here at the Iandoli & Edens adoption department we will be keeping a close watch, following all new developments. To have your questions on adoption answered, call us now at (908) 879-9499 to talk to one of our adoption specialists. You can also visit us on the web at http://www.iandoliedens.com.

It seems like every time you read a newspaper or Google the news you hear more horrific stories about domestic violence. It can be something like the Ray Rice scandal, caught on video tape and rocking the NFL, or people you’ve never heard of in an article about murder/suicide of a couple.
So is domestic violence on the rise, or is it just more out in the open? Janay Rice allegedly claims that God made Ray do it to bring national attention to the problem of Domestic Violence. Whatever you believe, it is more out in the open today than ever before. Even as little as ten years ago there was an aura of shame felt by victims of Domestic Violence.

Today, Domestic Violence is one of the most complicated proceedings in Family Court. Unlike the Rice’s situation, Domestic Violence is rarely caught on video. Most often it is only the couple (and unfortunately sometimes the children) who witness the incident. In those cases the Judge must decide on the testimony of the two involved in the act, and their credibility. Testifying in open Court about such a private and emotional episode (whether true or not) can be extremely difficult for the litigants. Sometimes the accuser is so nervous or intimidated he or she makes a very poor witness. At times the accused is frantically trying to prove his or her innocence, and does not make a good impression to the Court.

At Iandoli & Edens we have a team of lawyers skilled in Domestic Violence. We take the time to prepare our witnesses, put them at ease, and ensure that they will be ready to take the stand.

If you are a victim or are accused of Domestic Violence, contact one of our professionals at Iandoli & Edens by phoning (908) 879-9499 for a free consultation with one of our attorneys experienced in Domestic Violence. You can also visit us on the web at http://www.iandoliedens.com.