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Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck keep to themselves

With the marriage of Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck heading to a divorce after a failed reconciliation, the two now have to decide out how to split up their fortunes as well as all of the issues surrounding their children. More likely than not, as is the case in most celebrity divorces, Garner and Affleck will have their two attorneys attempt to iron out a settlement before taking it to Court.   However, if that does not work, they are much more likely to hire a private mediator or arbitrator to help settle the case. Much of this has to do with the fact that they do not want their private lives detailed in a public forum such as an open Court.  It is for this reason that so few celebrity divorces go to trial or are seen in the news.   Mediation is not only for celebrities.  The rest of the populace can also greatly benefit from mediation as opposed to litigation.  Some of the main reasons are time and expense, but there is also the idea that the parties ultimately get to decide their fate as opposed to a Judge who is bound by a set of laws and rules that very well may not be the best fit for a couple.  A more detailed list of benefits is on our firm’s mediation website here:  http://www.anewwaytodivorce.com/why-mediate.html 

If you have any questions about mediation, please call our firm at 908-879-9499, for a free consultation to see if mediation is a good fit for your needs.

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new-year-resolutionLike most New Year’s Resolutions accomplishing the goal of getting a divorce is challenging. Both emotionally and financially.  Much like losing weight successfully a successful divorce is not accomplished overnight but through careful planning and attention to detail.   While moving forward with a divorce may be the ultimate goal many people have no idea where to start.  For example:  Does your spouse have any idea this is your New Year’s Resolution?  If not, how do you break the news?  If you have children, do you have a plan as to who will have custody?  Do you have a list of all of your assets?  Equally important, do you have a list of all of your debts?  Have you considered how you are going to reach your goal?  Through mediation or litigation?  These questions are just the beginning.  If you have questions about the divorce process please contact one of our experienced attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499.

Don’t you hate it when you call a professional and they do not return your call? We’ve all been there. Doctors, accountants, contractors, real estate agents and, yes, even lawyers have fallen victim to this horrible habit.

It goes without saying, waiting for someone to answer your question or to let you know the status of your matter creates unnecessary anxiety and worry. Very rarely do we come across a professional who will not only take the time to return our call, but who will call us back quickly.

Here, at Iandoli & Edens, LLC, we return phone calls. We answer your emails. We let you know what is going on with your case. Quickly. If an adversary calls on your case and we are unavailable, we return their calls too. Stop waiting by the phone. Iandoli & Edens, LLC is here to help. Call us today at 908.879.9499 or visit us on the web at http://www.iandoliedens.com.

The holiday season is quickly approaching. The holidays can be a particularly stressful time for parents going through a divorce. The question of who will have parenting time during which holiday will inevitably be an issue to address. The best way to reduce this added stress during the holidays is to develop a plan with your spouse outlining the schedule for each holiday that is celebrated. Discussing holiday plans and schedules in advance with your spouse is key to prevent misunderstandings and avoid unnecessary anxiety. Planning ahead will also allow the children to be involved in the plans and know exactly where they are going for the holidays. Courts encourage parents going through a divorce to come to an agreement on a holiday parenting time plan.

However, as with any other divorce related issue, disagreements concerning holiday parenting time may inevitably occur. If you are separated from your spouse, contemplating a divorce, or already divorced and need to modify your holiday parenting time plan, we are here to help. We also offer mediation services to assist both you and your spouse in formulating a plan to keep the holidays enjoyable even during this difficult time. To schedule a consultation with an experienced matrimonial attorney please call us at (908) 879-9499, or visit our website at http://www.iandoliedens.com.

As we approach tax season, the question of whether or not to file a joint return with your spouse becomes a particularly important consideration if you are contemplating a divorce. While it is usually more beneficial to file a joint return, there are situations when filing separately may be the better option. For example, you suspect that your spouse may be omitting income or overstating deductions, and you do not want to be held personally responsible for your spouse’s potential tax liability. You may also want to keep finances separate if you have separated from your spouse and/or are considering a divorce.
If you are contemplating divorce and have questions about your rights, do not hesitate to call us at (908) 879-9499 to schedule an initial consultation, or visit our website at http://www.iandoliedens.com. Our attorneys are here to help.

There are so many attorneys, you may be wondering where and how to start your search for your divorce attorney. One tip, of course, is to look at the attorney’s website. You may also want to ask professionals, such as other attorneys, therapists and psychologists. You may want to ask family members and friends and learn of their own experiences. Most definitely, you will want to interview the attorney you are considering. The attorney you hire should handle a significant amount of family law cases. Importantly, you want to have a rapport with that attorney. You don’t want to feel reluctant to discuss personal issues with your attorney. You want to be comfortable expressing your concerns and the matters that are most important to you.

For a consultation, call one of our experienced family law attorneys who know how to listen at Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879 9499 or click here http://www.iandoliedens.com to learn more about us.

Many times litigants are faced with two options: take their case to trial or settle. Often, it is an extremely difficult decision to make. One must evaluate the pros and cons of settlement versus the risk of having their case proceed to trial. In the event your case proceeds to trial, it will be left in the hands of a neutral judge who could, or could not, rule in your favor. But then again, seldom is there a true “winner” in a settlement.
Here are a couple of helpful tips to help you decide whether settlement is right for you.
First, make a list of all of the issues in your case. For instance, real property, personal property, custody, child support, debts and alimony are often debated issues in divorce cases.
Second, write how you would like to resolve the issue. Here is an example of a list:
1. House. I want to sell it and divide any proceeds equally.
2. Custody. I want to have liberal time with the children. I want three weeks of summer vacation. I will agree to alternate holidays.
3. Personal property. I want the dining room furniture, living room furniture and the things in the garage. My spouse can have the rest.
4. Child Support. I will agree to use the NJ child support guidelines.
5. Debts. I will pay my credit cards. My spouse to pay student loans.
6. Alimony. I want permanent alimony. I need $2,500 per month.
7. Business. I want 40% of my spouses’ business.
8. Other. Our retirement assets should be divided equally.
Third, ask for your spouses’ position on the same issues. Review each item to determine if you can agree on certain issues. This will help highlight the items which remain in dispute, if any.

Finally, evaluate whether a settlement is possible. If so, settlement may be more cost effective and will save you a lot of time. However, if your spouse will not negotiate issues that are important to you or you feel as if your goals under step two will have to be compromised beyond what you find is reasonable, then, perhaps, having a judge decide your matter at trial may be the best scenario.
Contact an attorney at Iandoli & Edens, LLC to learn more. Call us today at 908.879.9499 or visit us on the web at http://www.iandoliedens.com.

Guest Post from Edward Metz, CDFA, from Money at Work LLC.

“Ready, Aim, Fire” is a lot more effective than “Ready, Fire, Aim”, wouldn’t you agree? So preparing for the financial aspects of the divorce is not only smart, it is crucial. Decisions you make now or in the heat of the moment, can affect the rest of your life, and in many cases, the lives of your children. Educating yourself on your present and future financial health will empower you to be a stronger player and will assist your attorneys in representing you in the most cost effective manner.

In a mediation oriented divorce, this will help both parties establish a fair and equitable distribution in the most cost effective way. In a litigated divorce process, it will not only ensure that you are armed with the understanding of your present and future financial health, it will give you and your attorneys the visual aids to assist them in representing you both orally and visually for the best possible outcome.

For more information on what you need to know before your divorce is final, please call Ed Metz, CDFA, at (973)895-1133 or go to http://www.MoneyAtWorkLLC.com.

I’m no match for my spouse —

Some people assume that they are not good candidates for mediation because they feel that they cannot resolve issues with their spouse or that their spouse always wins arguments at home. Sometimes it is the wife who feels that her husband is stronger and always gets his way. Sometimes it is the husband who feels that his wife is more verbal and always gets her way.

Mediation is not arguing. An experienced mediator will have the issues addressed by each client and, if necessary, repeat in a mutual manner the concerns, opinions, etc. of that client. Experienced mediators can neutralize most discussions to help people reach a fair resolution of their differences. It is certainly worth a try. For more information, call one of the experienced attorneys at Iandoli & Edens, LLC at (908) 879-9499 for assistance. Click here http://www.iandoliedens.com to visit the Mediation Department of our website for more information.

Iandoli and Edens is collecting non-perishable food for the Backpack Program. It is a charitable organization which collects and distributes food to parents of children. If you would like to contribute, we will keep a box in our waiting room for non-perishable food items. The program has suggested:

•Cereal-low sugar, child friendly
•Canned tuna or chicken
•Macaroni “N” cheese
•Peanut butter and jelly
•Pancake mix and syrup
•Applesauce and fruit (single serve), no sugar added
•Shelf-stable milk
•Meals in a can, like Dinty Moore and Chef Boyardee
•Granola type snack bars
•Raisins, individually boxed