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There are so many attorneys, you may be wondering where and how to start your search for your divorce attorney. One tip, of course, is to look at the attorney’s website. You may also want to ask professionals, such as other attorneys, therapists and psychologists. You may want to ask family members and friends and learn of their own experiences. Most definitely, you will want to interview the attorney you are considering. The attorney you hire should handle a significant amount of family law cases. Importantly, you want to have a rapport with that attorney. You don’t want to feel reluctant to discuss personal issues with your attorney. You want to be comfortable expressing your concerns and the matters that are most important to you.

For a consultation, call one of our experienced family law attorneys who know how to listen at Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879 9499 or click here http://www.iandoliedens.com to learn more about us.

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Iandoli and Edens is collecting non-perishable food for the Backpack Program. It is a charitable organization which collects and distributes food to parents of children. If you would like to contribute, we will keep a box in our waiting room for non-perishable food items. The program has suggested:

•Cereal-low sugar, child friendly
•Canned tuna or chicken
•Macaroni “N” cheese
•Peanut butter and jelly
•Pancake mix and syrup
•Applesauce and fruit (single serve), no sugar added
•Shelf-stable milk
•Meals in a can, like Dinty Moore and Chef Boyardee
•Granola type snack bars
•Raisins, individually boxed

Iandoli & Edens, LLC Donates to Chester Day!!

Date: May 11, 2013

Time: 11:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

Look for our table near the Gazebo!!

Iandoli & Edens, LLC Donates to Chester Day!!

Date: May 11, 2013

Time: 11:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

Look for our table near the Gazebo!!

Iandoli & Edens, LLC Donates to Chester Day!!

Date: May 11, 2013

Time: 11:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

Look for our table near the Gazebo!!

Going through divorce is often an extremely painful process for the parents.  But how about the children?  Even the most civil divorces affect children in many different ways.  Obviously, age is a huge component as to the type of reaction your child might be going through.

So how do you know if your children’s reactions are “normal”, or if professional help is needed?  Sometimes the Courts or other agencies make the decision for you.  The L.A.County Dept. of Children and Family Services recommended counseling for Nahla Aubry, daughter of Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry, when she was only three years old.

Sam and Lola Sheen, daughters of Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards, also attended sessions with a therapist when they were four and three respectively.  The dissolution of the Sheen/Richards marriage was extremely contentious.

In dealing with your own children, keep in mind there are certain emotions that most children are likely to feel, although they will express these emotions differently due to their age.  Most common feelings in children are sadness, depression, anxiety, confusion, guilt and anger.

Most child therapists suggest both parents keep a close eye on the children and communicate their thoughts and concerns to each other.  Children often will go through intense emotions but they are less capable of sustaining them than adults are.  Therefore, if any of the feelings you notice seem to last you might want to seek professional help for your child.  And remember- you know your child best- listen to your gut instinct over statistics, or what the family next door chose to do.

At Iandoli and Edens we encourage our clients to always focus on the well-being of the children through this difficult time.  Whether the divorce is amicable or we are conducting a custody trial, the children’s well-being is in the forefront.  For an appointment with one of our skilled custody attorneys call today at 908-879-9499 or visit us at www.iandoliedens.com.

Parenting coordinators are assigned by Judges in certain high conflict cases regarding custody.  Just by reading the celebrity news headlines it is obvious that unfortunately may parents are simply unable to communicate with each other in the best interest of their child or children.  Other couples make disparaging remarks about their children’s other parent that the child or children may become aware of.  Anne Heche and her ex utilized the services of a parenting coordinator after Ms. Heche famously called her ex (and father of her son) a “lazy ass” on the David Lettermen show. Additionally, some parents involve the children themselves in the custody dispute by putting them in the middle.

The  role of the parenting coordinator is set forth in the Pilot Program Guidelines as follows: 

“The parenting coordinator’s goal is to aid parties in monitoring the existing parenting plan, reducing misunderstandings, clarifying priorities, exploring possibilities for compromise and developing methods of communication that promote collaboration in parenting. The parenting coordinator’s role is to facilitate decision-making between the parties or make such recommendations, as may be appropriate when the parties are unable to do so. One primary goal of the parenting coordinator is to empower parents to develop and utilize effective parenting skills so that they can resume the parenting and decision-making role without the need for outside intervention. The parenting coordinator should provide guidance and direction to the parties with the primary focus on the best interests of the child by reducing conflict and fostering sound decisions that aid positive child development.”

Iandoli & Edens can advise you as to your need for a Parenting Coordinator, as well as be appointed as one in your case. 

For more information call:  908 879 9499.