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bloggggParental alienation has become a very hot topic in recent years. Wikipedia describes it as “ …the process, and the result, of the psychological manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect, or hostility towards a parent or other family member.”  It is further described as occurring “  almost exclusively in association with family separation or divorce…”  One of the first times parental alienation was brought to public attention was during Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger’s acrimonious divorce.  Mr. Baldwin, in and out of Court proceedings, accused Ms. Basinger of “brainwashing” their daughter Ireland and restricting his time with her.  Ms. Basinger, on the other hand, accused Mr. Baldwin of being unstable and aggressive.  Unfortunately, there are so many layers to parental alienation that it is extraordinarily difficult for the Courts to know how to manage this issue.  Frequently the children are teenagers and if the damage has been done a simple change of custody will rather than resolve the matter will make things worse.  If you are in a situation where you believe your children are being alienated from you, or if you believe you are being unfairly accused of alienation when it is the other parent’s own behavior that is disrupting the relationship between parent and child, call one of our experienced family law attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS at (908) 879-9499 for guidance through this heartbreaking process.

Every day we read about the latest celebrity breakup. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have been especially active in the headlines recently.  Their divorce is especially difficult and sensitive because they are parents to young children.  Children who most likely had no say in the divorce itself or the added attention that it has brought to their already famous family.  We were happy to read the headline this week that Brad and Angelina are going to put up a “united front” in their divorce and are agreeing to seal sensitive records relating to their children.  Children and their protection should always be the primary goal of all the adults involved in a divorce – from parents, to attorneys, to the Judge.  It does not matter who you are, be it a Hollywood celeb or an average Joe, at the end of the day you are a parent and that bond will continue. Part of a successful divorce is not just ending the marriage, but building a plan for the future. If you have questions about the divorce process please contact one of our experienced attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499.

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new-year-resolutionLike most New Year’s Resolutions accomplishing the goal of getting a divorce is challenging. Both emotionally and financially.  Much like losing weight successfully a successful divorce is not accomplished overnight but through careful planning and attention to detail.   While moving forward with a divorce may be the ultimate goal many people have no idea where to start.  For example:  Does your spouse have any idea this is your New Year’s Resolution?  If not, how do you break the news?  If you have children, do you have a plan as to who will have custody?  Do you have a list of all of your assets?  Equally important, do you have a list of all of your debts?  Have you considered how you are going to reach your goal?  Through mediation or litigation?  These questions are just the beginning.  If you have questions about the divorce process please contact one of our experienced attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499.

Are you prepared for the upcoming holidays? Who is hosting Thanksgiving this year? Who is making the turkey?  Who is making the pies?  Who is picking up grandma?  And where will the children be?

Yes, you read correctly. Where will the children be?  The holidays are stressful enough for intact families, but there is an additional stress for families of divorce.  Who will the children be with for Thanksgiving?  Who will the children be with for Hanukkah?  Who will the children be with for Christmas?   Where will the children be for any given holiday?  And for that matter, what is a holiday?

The answer is different for every family. Typically, parties who are already divorced have a detailed holiday schedule contained in their settlement agreement. The holiday schedule can be as detailed as the parties want and address any holiday the parties want.  For many people being able to take their children Trick or Treating on Halloween is just as important as eating pumpkin pie with them on Thanksgiving.  For divorced or separated families a detailed holiday schedule is essential to enjoying the season. The holidays are about spending time with friends and family; not about fighting over spending time with friends and family.

Unfortunately, some settlement agreements do not adequately address the holidays. Or perhaps the parties are newly separated and have not reached an agreement yet.  If you do not know where your children are supposed to be for the holidays contact one of our experienced attorneys at IANDOLI & EDENS (908) 879-9499 and we will help you come up with a plan that works for your family.

When going through a divorce or separation there are a multitude of sources to turn to for information.  Most of us turn to our friends and family.  After all, they are the core of our belief and trust.  Unfortunately, although they certainly have your best interest in their hearts, the information they may have may be skewed by horror stories of people they know, and perhaps more importantly their love for you and your children, and often your spouse.

The internet may be another source, but again, it is often the awfulness of the stories that hit the social media, with the true facts often obscured by sensationalism.

To learn what the law is in your state, and to hear what the options are in your situation, it is best to talk to an impartial Family Law attorney.  At Iandoli & Edens, we offer free consultations, where you can gather the information you need.  Knowing your rights can give you the power and decision-making knowledge for your individual situation.

To learn more, give IANDOLI & EDENS a call at 908-879-9499 and schedule your free consultation today.   You can also visit us on the web at www.iandoliedens.com.

Conscious Uncoupling. What exactly does that mean? Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin used it to describe their decision to divorce. While it may sound very Hollywood, there is a nugget of gold in there. As divorce attorneys at Iandoli & Edens, our motto has been “Divorce Doesn’t Have To Destroy”. In a way, conscious uncoupling embodies that belief.

When a couple decides that their marriage is no longer viable, if they have children, they must become the focus of the “uncoupling”. To raise healthy and happy children under adverse circumstances is difficult, yet it can and has been done. Knowing the love of both parents is crucial, but sometimes even more important is that the children see that parents who are divorcing can still respect each other.

At Iandoli & Edens we try to make that happen by emphasizing the children’s needs. To speak with an experienced divorce attorney call IANDOLI & EDENS at 908-879-9499 for a free consultation today. You can also visit us on the web at http://www.iandoliedens.com.

Don’t you hate it when you call a professional and they do not return your call? We’ve all been there. Doctors, accountants, contractors, real estate agents and, yes, even lawyers have fallen victim to this horrible habit.

It goes without saying, waiting for someone to answer your question or to let you know the status of your matter creates unnecessary anxiety and worry. Very rarely do we come across a professional who will not only take the time to return our call, but who will call us back quickly.

Here, at Iandoli & Edens, LLC, we return phone calls. We answer your emails. We let you know what is going on with your case. Quickly. If an adversary calls on your case and we are unavailable, we return their calls too. Stop waiting by the phone. Iandoli & Edens, LLC is here to help. Call us today at 908.879.9499 or visit us on the web at http://www.iandoliedens.com.

The holiday season is quickly approaching. The holidays can be a particularly stressful time for parents going through a divorce. The question of who will have parenting time during which holiday will inevitably be an issue to address. The best way to reduce this added stress during the holidays is to develop a plan with your spouse outlining the schedule for each holiday that is celebrated. Discussing holiday plans and schedules in advance with your spouse is key to prevent misunderstandings and avoid unnecessary anxiety. Planning ahead will also allow the children to be involved in the plans and know exactly where they are going for the holidays. Courts encourage parents going through a divorce to come to an agreement on a holiday parenting time plan.

However, as with any other divorce related issue, disagreements concerning holiday parenting time may inevitably occur. If you are separated from your spouse, contemplating a divorce, or already divorced and need to modify your holiday parenting time plan, we are here to help. We also offer mediation services to assist both you and your spouse in formulating a plan to keep the holidays enjoyable even during this difficult time. To schedule a consultation with an experienced matrimonial attorney please call us at (908) 879-9499, or visit our website at http://www.iandoliedens.com.

Life changes when the children are not in school. For the stay-at-home parent, scheduling activities and appointments keeps everyone busy. When both parents work, careful planning must be made in advance. Typically the children are enrolled in all-day summer camps, daycare, or babysitters are lined up. Parents must agree on where the children will be placed and how the parents will have those expenses paid. Of course, there may be periods of time during the summer when the summer camp or daycare center is closed. It is best if the parents planned their vacations to cover those days. Sometimes one parent takes vacation from the time school closes in June until the camp or daycare starts. Usually the other parent will take vacation between the period of time that the camp/daycare is closed and school starts again in September. All of this takes careful planning and negotiating in advance. Unfortunately, when people are going through a separation or divorce, it is not always feasible to reach agreement on these issues. To assist with these important issues, do not hesitate to contact one of the attorneys at Iandoli & Edens, LLC at (908) 879-9499, http://www.iandoliedens.com.

There are so many attorneys, you may be wondering where and how to start your search for your divorce attorney. One tip, of course, is to look at the attorney’s website. You may also want to ask professionals, such as other attorneys, therapists and psychologists. You may want to ask family members and friends and learn of their own experiences. Most definitely, you will want to interview the attorney you are considering. The attorney you hire should handle a significant amount of family law cases. Importantly, you want to have a rapport with that attorney. You don’t want to feel reluctant to discuss personal issues with your attorney. You want to be comfortable expressing your concerns and the matters that are most important to you.

For a consultation, call one of our experienced family law attorneys who know how to listen at Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879 9499 or click here http://www.iandoliedens.com to learn more about us.