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Life changes when the children are not in school. For the stay-at-home parent, scheduling activities and appointments keeps everyone busy. When both parents work, careful planning must be made in advance. Typically the children are enrolled in all-day summer camps, daycare, or babysitters are lined up. Parents must agree on where the children will be placed and how the parents will have those expenses paid. Of course, there may be periods of time during the summer when the summer camp or daycare center is closed. It is best if the parents planned their vacations to cover those days. Sometimes one parent takes vacation from the time school closes in June until the camp or daycare starts. Usually the other parent will take vacation between the period of time that the camp/daycare is closed and school starts again in September. All of this takes careful planning and negotiating in advance. Unfortunately, when people are going through a separation or divorce, it is not always feasible to reach agreement on these issues. To assist with these important issues, do not hesitate to contact one of the attorneys at Iandoli & Edens, LLC at (908) 879-9499,

There are so many attorneys, you may be wondering where and how to start your search for your divorce attorney. One tip, of course, is to look at the attorney’s website. You may also want to ask professionals, such as other attorneys, therapists and psychologists. You may want to ask family members and friends and learn of their own experiences. Most definitely, you will want to interview the attorney you are considering. The attorney you hire should handle a significant amount of family law cases. Importantly, you want to have a rapport with that attorney. You don’t want to feel reluctant to discuss personal issues with your attorney. You want to be comfortable expressing your concerns and the matters that are most important to you.

For a consultation, call one of our experienced family law attorneys who know how to listen at Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879 9499 or click here to learn more about us.

Iandoli and Edens is collecting non-perishable food for the Backpack Program. It is a charitable organization which collects and distributes food to parents of children. If you would like to contribute, we will keep a box in our waiting room for non-perishable food items. The program has suggested:

•Cereal-low sugar, child friendly
•Canned tuna or chicken
•Macaroni “N” cheese
•Peanut butter and jelly
•Pancake mix and syrup
•Applesauce and fruit (single serve), no sugar added
•Shelf-stable milk
•Meals in a can, like Dinty Moore and Chef Boyardee
•Granola type snack bars
•Raisins, individually boxed

Iandoli & Edens, LLC Donates to Chester Day!!

Date: May 11, 2013

Time: 11:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

Look for our table near the Gazebo!!

Iandoli & Edens, LLC Donates to Chester Day!!

Date: May 11, 2013

Time: 11:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

Look for our table near the Gazebo!!

Iandoli & Edens, LLC Donates to Chester Day!!

Date: May 11, 2013

Time: 11:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

Look for our table near the Gazebo!!

I file for divorce?

Being the first to file or making your spouse angry for filing for a divorce will not cause you to lose custody.

My spouse earns more than I do?

Just because your spouse earns more does not mean that spouse will get custody.

My spouse can afford to keep the marital home and I can’t?

Being able to afford the marital home is not the only criteria.

My spouse has threatened that I will lose custody and he/she will get custody?

Threats are not the criteria.

Most cases settle.  Therefore, as difficult as it seems at first, most parents will work out a parenting plan in which both parents have some parenting time and special days, such as holidays, are shared or alternated.  While it may seem impossible, there are many tools to help parents resolve this important issue.  Some examples are four-way meetings, negotiating, mediators, etc.

If the Court has to decide, the Court will decide based on what is in the “best interests” of the child or children.  The decision is not based upon the one who wants the divorce, or the one who earns less, or the one who can afford the house or will fight for custody.  The Court will decide based on what is in the best interests of the child and that requires that we look at the child’s mental and emotional needs as well as the child’s physical needs.

If you have questions, call Iandoli & Edens at (908) 879-9499 for a consult to discuss your particular situation and click here to learn more about us.

Ah, yes. It’s that time of year again: October 31st – Halloween. When a family is intact, both parents are able to enjoy helping their children dress up in costumes, chaperone door-to-door trick-or-treating, and join in on the scary story telling.

When divorcing, however, many parents are frightened at the thought of missing this memorable holiday with their beloved children.  “Halloween, like Thanksgiving and the winter break holidays, is certainly an important holiday parents do not want to miss with their children,” explains Ann Edens, a partner with Iandoli & Edens.

Diane Vidal, an associate with Iandoli & Edens, states, “It is best to discuss Halloween at the time of the divorce or separation and divide the time in the best way possible.”  Although this may appear to be a gruesome task, parents who are able to refrain from the howling screams, but instead choose to communicate with one another, typically agree on a method that works for them and their children. A parenting time schedule may help divorcing or separating couples settle their differences. The best part? It doesn’t have to be a scary Nightmare. Alternating the holiday on even and odd years is an option or dividing the afternoon between the parents may also work. “Every family is different. What may work for the Jones’ may be a horrible idea for the Smith’s,” says Stefanie Gagliardi, an associate with Iandoli & Edens. So, put away the fangs and the pitchfork and rest assured that your decision to share Halloween equally will not haunt you in the future. Your children will love you more for it.

Feel free to contact one of our family law attorneys at (908) 879-9499 for a consultation to discuss your family law concerns.  Click onto for more information.

Please join us on November 13, 2012 from 7:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. at the Morris Hills School of Adult and Continuing Education for our seminar entitled “Separation & Divorce & Divorce Mediation, an Overview of Divorce and Information on Mediation.”

To learn more about this seminar or the Morris Hills School of Adult and Continuing Education visit:

Pre-registration and fee are required by the Adult School. To register for this seminar please call the Morris Hills School of Adult and Continuing Education at (973) 664-2295.

There appears to be a phenomenon – a television phenomenon – that provides litigants with nothing more than unreasonable expectations about the time it takes to obtain a Final Judgment of Divorce. It is astonishing how the leading couple in a film can marry and divorce in two hours or less. No wonder so many litigants facing divorce are shocked to learn the length of time it really takes to divorce their spouse. Truth is, unless you and your partner can agree as to how to proceed on all issues including, but not limited to, custody, child support, equitable distribution, financial support, and retirement, before you walk into an attorney’s office for a consultation, you are facing, on average, a year of litigation. Yes, that’s right. I said it. One year. Do not let the movies fool you: it is never as it seems.

During litigation, discovery is exchanged where both parties have an opportunity to learn about the financials and respective positions with regard to custody, if applicable. This stage alone can take a couple of months. At the onset of the litigation for divorce, it is imperative that both parties complete a Case Information Statement, an important document which will specify yearly incomes, the marital lifestyle and list all of the assets and debt acquired during the marriage. The parties will also be required to attend a Case Management Conference with the Judge assigned to your case to review discovery end dates. The next phase of the litigation is the all-important Early Settlement Panel.

Early Settlement Panel is a mandatory event scheduled several months after the complaint for divorce is filed. At this event, both parties meet with two experienced matrimonial attorneys to discuss the outstanding issues. The panelists volunteer their time to help settle the financial aspect of your case only; custody and parenting time are not discussed. Many cases settle on this day after litigants hear the suggestions from the panelists.  If you settle at Early Settlement Panel, the Court will grant you a divorce on the same day and your case will be over.  However, if you do not settle, you proceed to the next stage: Economic Mediation.

At Economic Mediation, the parties meet with one matrimonial attorney who will work hard to mediate your differences. Usually, the mediator will focus purely on the economic issues but custody and parenting time can be mediated if requested. Many cases settle at this point. Both sides will hear about the probable outcome and come to terms that if they proceed to trial, the risk inherit in a trial and the risk of spending thousands of dollars on counsel fees for a trial, may outweigh any benefit.

In the event you are not settled at Economic mediation, you will be scheduled for an Intensive Settlement Conference with the Judge who will provide input as to how he or she may ultimately decide the disputed issues. A trial will be scheduled if you cannot settle your case. Many times, a trial will be scheduled months in advance due to the busy court calendar and you will be forced to return to Court throughout several different days to finish your trial.

As you can see, movies do not reveal the work it takes to get a divorce. In reality, divorce litigation is a lengthy process engineered to help litigants avoid the cost of trial to settle their case. There is no question, divorce is not as quick as the movies would have you believe. Don’t believe the hype. Talk to an experienced attorney to learn the truth.

If you have questions about a divorce and seek legal assistance, contact an experienced attorney at Iandoli & Edens, LLC at 908.879.9499. Make an appointment today. Click here to log onto for more information.

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